Three of my friends are always, always late. I have an absolute aversion to being late, I try and always be on time for everything. Which usually means that I am a few minutes early as I factor in for potential delays.
My late friends are not any busier than me, they are not reliant on public transport and they always suggest meeting at a particular time. This is my cunning way of making sure they are on time, if they picked 2pm then why aren’t they on time?
Why are they always late? It’s usually by at least 10 minutes and they never let me know that they are running late until it is the time we were meant to meet. If I knew in advance I would use the ten or twenty minutes wisely!
Sensible advice is that I should politely say “your lateness makes me feel like you don’t value my time. Maybe you could let me know next time you’re running late” and they’d say “gosh, sorry, how rude of me, of course I’ll never be late again”.
The reality is that they’d not see it that way and would probably suggest that I am uptight, stressed out and need to learn to relax. I also would struggle to remain polite and calm when really I feel like shouting “fucking hell, why can’t you just be on time or let me know that you’re running late it drives me mental!”. There is no solution.
My friend is ten minutes late so far, she has not yet texted to explain. I harassed my children to hurry up and get organised, parked my car in a paying car park as I erroneously thought I didn’t have time to park further away for free and walk. I could have gone to the shops and got some things I needed in the ten minutes I have been here. It really is very, very annoying.